It's time to start playing BIG!
Do you even know if you're playing small my friend?
Wishing you a happy and healthy Monday friend. Are you ready to make the most out of it? I'm going to hit you with a quick fact, no one is going to hand you a bigger dream than the one you believe is possible for yourself. 💥
Last week I was on the phone with an incredibly smart and talented young woman. When I asked her what the big dream was, she looked down, lowered her voice, and in a muffled, almost embarrassed, tone, began telling me her "dream." The exact question I asked (and often ask my friends and clients), "if you had a magic wand and you could have ANYTHING you wanted in the entire world, holding nothing back at all, what would you want for your life?"
The usual response I get is, "I've never thought about it," or "that's a tough one," followed by all of the reasons they don't have a magic wand and can't have everything they want.
Here's a big reality check, step one to creating the life you really want, is knowing what kind of life you really want to live.
I get it. Disappointments or social norm can create a filter in which you look at what's possible in the world. "Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst," isn't that how the old saying goes? Let's go ahead and squash that one right here and now and let's instead say "Strategize for the best, and prepare for the best." Hoping may feel good, but it's not a strategy and it's not going to move your life in the direction you want. Why it's important to prepare for the best is because: 1. you are focusing your attention on what you want rather than what you don't want (we've already learned before that it's a big part of goal setting and achieving) and 2. you keep the momentum going once you've achieved what you want. Imagine hitting your first goal and then not preparing for what comes after it; will you keep moving forward? Or at that point do you need to stop to figure out what's next, or worse, begin to self-sabotage because this leveling up feels unfamiliar and scary. It can be easier to stay in your comfort zone, but that will never be as satisfying as creating the life you choose to live.
This week's homework, and yes as a former teacher I LOVE homework:
Write a letter to yourself one year from now. Begin it, It is now July 15, 2020, and I ________________ (state your full name), have.... Now write down all that you are being, doing, and having in the following categories:
🌟Health / Fitness
🌟Relationship / with others and self
🌟Financial / Career
Here's a short, high-level example for Health:
It is now July 15, 2020, and I Michelle Hillier have a healthy body that allows me to do all of the physical activities I love to do with ease, joy and grace. (having) I wake in the morning with no alarm needed feeling completely rejuvenated with have tons of energy to start the day strong and keep that momentum going all day long. (being) I eat foods that nourish my body and give me fuel and strength. I enjoy exercising at least 5 times a week and I feel more and more alive the more I move my body. I push myself to do new activities that I've never done before, like hip-hop dance classes, martial arts, and rock-climbing. (doing)
A few notes to help you with this task. If what you are writing down feels too easy, then you're not thinking BIG enough. If you want to create more financial abundance and write down that you now earn $50 more a week, you're not pushing your comfort zone. If what you write down feels impossible and too scary, either you're writing down something that others want for you, and you don't want for yourself, OR, you have limiting beliefs surrounding that goal. Make sure to post it somewhere you can read it often as a reminder of what you are working towards. It will help motivate you on the days you may not have enough drive.
This is step one for leveling up, next week we'll work on step two. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to reach out!